Much of human sexuality is symbolic. This means that humans attach sexual significance to seemingly non sexual objects — fabrics, muscles, frills, whips, power — and become turned on by them. Also, a French maid — like other occupational fantasies such as secretary, school-girl and air-hostess — is a female job, thus cranking up the femininity value even more. The more feminine a garment is…the more attractive it becomes. Why do men appear in my fantasies? Am I bi? A common aspect of cross-gender fantasy is the appearance of strong, powerful men often they are faceless.