Moving is the worst. Tensions run high, things break, and you find yourself questioning all of your values based on how many T-shirts you somehow own. Establishing a new home with someone in an attempt to merge your physical and material lives as a manifestation of your commitment to one another, aka Uhauling, takes the intensity of moving to a whole other level. My partner Wynn and I moved in together in August, along with our friend Antonia. We experienced some ups and downs, but ultimately we emerged intact. When the three of us first sat down to talk about what we were looking for in a place, we agreed on quite a lot: price range, preferred locations, and avoiding a big apartment complex.
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Well congratulations, you two are sickeningly cute and in love. Unless you or your honey boo boo live alone, there are more people than just the two of you to keep in mind. If your boyfriend is moving into your place, or vice versa, one idea is to take everything down from the walls and start from scratch. Proximity does not equal intimacy.
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When marriage equality seemed a distant dream, some found a creative way to realize the legal benefits of family. Instead, some changed the legal status of their union to father and son or mother and daughter. In a way, commitments like these trumped even the presumed longevity of marriage because the bond between parent and child in America is legally irrevocable: The law cements them as parent and child for life. And that became a problem for some couples. It was very popular since it was the only method for couples to use that would give legal underpinning to gay relationships.
Particularly with the legal sanctions that exist against gay marriage, moving in and living together is a big step and important rite-of-passage for a gay couple. It can symbolize the development and maturation of their relationship, as well as express the sense of a deepening commitment to each other and desire for more definition as partners. It requires a lot of forethought and preparation or you could be setting yourselves up for a lot of drama, stress, and pain.