Surrounded by her colleagues - one was sat less than two metres away - the then year-old slowly slid her right hand up her skirt, down the front of her tights and gently began rubbing her clitoris. It gave me a thrill. Did Jenny have a problem? Despite the above anecdote providing what one assumes is ample evidence, it took her a while to come to terms with the fact that she did, in fact, have a sex addiction. While the causes are yet unknown, sex addiction is widely believed to derive from childhood or adolescence, often resulting from an early emotional or physical trauma, sexual abuse, neglect or depression. According to relationship counselling service Relate , sex addiction can be described as any sexual activity that feels 'out of control' and involves frequent self-destructive or high-risk activity that isn't 'emotionally fulfilling, that one is ashamed of and that one is unable to stop, despite it causing repeated problems'.
Story of a Female Sex Addict. - Pipe Down Magazine
Having a string of partners and watching hours of porn isn't necessarily the way to achieve sexual liberation. While many people are empowered by owning their own sexuality in this way, for some, it can mean the exact opposite. Rather than enjoyment and affection, sex can be intertwined with shame and used as a weapon on the path to self destruction. For Erica Garza, life was about pursuing romantic partners, watching porn, and putting herself in potentially dangerous situations, all for the sexual release that helped her forget about everything else she was trying to ignore. In her book " Getting Off: One Woman's Journey Through Sex and Porn Addiction ," Garza, 35, tells her story of how she would continually cancel plans to stay in a dark room and masturbate, and have strings of partners who she didn't use protection with. Sex and shame were so fused together, she would seek out situations that she thought were "revolting," and other adjectives like it, just to be able to orgasm. Unprotected sex, for example, gave her an extra charge of adrenaline.
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Hopefully her message will bring awareness to a subject not often talked about and allow others to come forward and seek help for their addiction. Sex addiction! My childhood was not particularly good, I was brought up in Ireland, my mum was a strict catholic.
I don't like calling myself a sex addict. When people hear that term most of them tend to have one of three reactions. Some people think sex addiction doesn't exist, that it is just a made-up term to excuse bad behavior. A second group thinks that a sex addict is a crazy, out-of-control freak who thinks of nothing but getting laid every second of every day.